Miscarriage is not the most talked about topic but it certainly is the most traumatic one. We have asked and addressed the top 5 questions on the subject:
The moment those two lines appear on your pregnancy test, your mind suddenly fills with questions about morning sickness, gender of the baby, will the baby look just like you? But, for some, questions about the possibility of losing the baby to miscarriage can become a real concern.
First of all, it is important to know that most pregnancies will continue on to make healthy babies. But miscarriage is definitely the most common pregnancy complication, with 10- 25 percent of all clinically known pregnancies ending that way.
Whether you have had a miscarriage or you have concerns, here are the answers to 5 common questions that might bother you but at the same time you might be afraid to ask.
Does spotting always mean miscarriage?
During pregnancy, women are warned to watch out for any spotting or bleeding. While it can be a sign of an impending miscarriage, it’s not always certain. Bleeding in early pregnancy does not always results in a miscarriage. 20-30 percent of all pregnancies can experience some bleeding in early pregnancy with 50 percent of those resulting in normal pregnancies.
Will it happen again?
In more than 85 percent of miscarriage cases, women are able to get pregnant again and give birth to healthy babies, but the anxiety of it happening can be the real cause of concern. So it’s important to have coping mechanism in place. Mindfulness, meditation, and writing down, and working through negative thoughts can be a means to combat anxiety around this. It is very important to know how to ‘let go’ of your fears. It is we who know ourselves best, therefore, we need to control and calm ourselves down and kick the negativity out of the window.
Why do I feel so sad?
It is a common misconception that miscarriage in early pregnancy does not have a major emotional impact. This is far from true for many women. Losing a child is painful irrespective of whether it happens in the early stage of pregnancy or later. It can result in feelings similar to grief, this is because of the hormonal changes that the body undergoes. A woman might experience frequent episodes of crying, loss of appetite, and lack of concentration.
Should I talk about my loss?
Talking about miscarriage can help your recover from your loss. Miscarriage does not have to be such a hush-hush issue in our society. By sharing with others about your loss not only will help you come out of your grief, but will also help women around you who are also finding answers to questions like you. Sharing will lead to speedy healing.
Was it my fault?
A recent survey done by Obstetrics & Gynecology found that almost half of women who have gone through the agonizing pain of miscarriage feel like it was their fault. Women often blame themselves when the truth is that miscarriage is usually outside of their control. Never blame yourself for the loss, it will just cause you more pain than is necessary.
Miscarriage may be one of the most poorly understood topic. The more we talk, ask questions, and educate, the more support and resources will be available for women and their partners.